While I’m no Elle Macpherson, I’m tall, slim, blonde and, so I’m often told, a good-looking woman. I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty — the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.
If you’re a woman reading this, I’d hazard that you’ve already formed your own opinion about me — and it won’t be very flattering. For while many doors have been opened (literally) as a result of my looks, just as many have been metaphorically slammed in my face — and usually by my own sex.
I’m not smug and I’m no flirt, yet over the years I’ve been dropped by countless friends who felt threatened if I was merely in the presence of their other halves. If their partners dared to actually talk to me, a sudden chill would descend on the room
Queue outrage – she’s a dog, screamed Twitter, the worst abuse coming from women. She’s arrogant. Blah Blah… Ms Brick may be guilty of hilarious hyperbole, but she’s right. Women are vile to other women. The main reason for the glass ceiling is other women in the office, and I’ve lost count of the women I know who say they’d “never work for a woman again”. Attractive female bosses are usually described by men and women as “bitches”. I’ve had some excellent female bosses – no problem at all with ladies in charge (except of the thermostat, but that’s my ONLY sexist view. I even let my other half control the TV remote).
I’m not saying we men are perfect equal opportunities players. In the workplace, female bosses work best when they’re a bit mumsy – nonthreatening, even comforting to their male charges. However I’ve seen how those mumsy bosses treat a pretty young woman who joins the team. Such girls rarely last long.
I have just this to say: my detractors have simply proved my point. Their level of anger only underlines that no one in this world is more reviled than a pretty woman.
Of course, to other women, if you’re a woman, being right is no defense.
Women. It’s you who buy the magazines pointing out and sneering skinny/fat celebrities. It’s you who buy the Daily Mail, which constantly lambasts the moral choices of other women. Women it’s you who savagely do down the sisterhood in the work place. It’s you who discriminate against women. It’s you who belittle women for their looks. It’s at you the size zero models are aimed (well you and Gay men). Equality starts at home. Amongst the girls, a pat on the back is just a recce for a knife.